Normalize Exploring Sexuality

By Diary of a Chocolate Girl 

The topic of sex is still one that makes my palms sweat. Depending on the setting, the initiation of the conversation of sex usually measures my comfortability to express openly. With the recent passing of Pride Month, a celebration of the LGBTQIA+ community and those who stand in support of their choice of sexual preference, I think it is a beautiful thing!

Watching others be liberated and express freely in honor of who they have sparked confidence in me to be explorative in my sexuality and live in my truth of what makes me genuinely happy.
Being a heterosexual woman, I tend to think of only the “traditional” labels of defining one’s interests. However, today it is not black and white. People can define themselves with more than one term to identify their sexual preferences.

Tying in my religion with being a Christian, I was raised to believe there was only one way of defining oneself sexually. It was a man with a man and a woman with a woman and no exceptions.
Those are still my beliefs and practices today, but I have recently discovered that I am attracted to things outside of gender.

Now hear me out before you click away…..

I’ve always tried to live life simply, not to be too complicated, always look aesthetically pleasing on paper, and not too outrageous with my appearance. (Clearly failed at that last one as I am nearly 6ft tall!) With years passing by, I find myself more intrigued with deeper connections. With exploring my sexuality, I am becoming more susceptible to being stimulated by intellect and deep conversations. Now I tend to look past just the physical (still important but not #1) and am intrigued to explore one’s mind.
I like to observe how one thinks and speaks with reason, how one expresses themselves when experiencing different emotions. What life experiences develop someone into who they are.

When exploring your sexuality, I do not feel that it only involves the direct act of sexual intercourse. I believe it can be an attitude of being carefree of receiving judgment or backlash from those who do not share the same views or beliefs as you. I support every individual engaging in what makes them happy.

Despite what others think or feel, no one can validate your life except you by choosing to live in truth and allowing yourself the freedom to connect with whatever energy and vibe that best flows with your spirit. So don’t be afraid to explore those attractions that you may not be able to explain with words. Sometimes connections can be made with speaking no words at all.


Chanel Davis is a contributing writer and the creator and operator of the Diary Of A Chocolate Girl podcast aiming to connect with chocolate girls all over through personal experiences and opinions with mild humor and a spiritual flare. Be sure to connect on IG and Facebook @DiaryofaChocolateGirl

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