By Quasha Ross
Last night was a vibe. I drank kombucha out of a wine glass (because gut health is important), placed my headphones over my ears, and began to blast Beyonce. I danced around my little apartment for about an hour before proceeding to do my skincare routine. I steamed my face and then applied a clarifying mask. Oh, did I mention I ordered take-out from my favorite taco spot, No spoon, fork, or dinner plate was washed last night.
Living alone is a luxury for me, especially as a single woman. It provides me freedom from the world. I get to be unapologetically me. There’s no judgment and no subtle suggestions on who I should become. I’m free to do whatever I want, whenever and however I please.
I am cautious when inviting people over because spirits and auras linger. I’m intentional about the furniture and décor that I buy because I want every corner of my place to represent who I am and be inviting enough for me to come home.
Sometimes I sit in silence to stop and hear myself think. Within these moments, I try to understand who I am and what I want out of life. Outside of maintaining the household, paying the bills, and running errands, I can create a better life and mental space for myself.
A short while ago, I felt an overwhelming sense of loneliness whenever I came home, and there was no one to greet me. I thought about getting a dog or a boyfriend, but why take on that responsibility to fill a superficial void.
Living alone teaches you how to be with yourself. It reminds you of who you are in every aspect of life. As I think about how quickly life changes, I think this is a moment I might not have again, so why not relish in it now. Why not enjoy the simplicity of my home life and not be in such a rush to avoid my own company?
Living alone is a vibe. I love this for me!
Quasha Rossis a contributing writer for the Pedestal Project, LLC. She’s a creative writer who believes writing is a true art form. Find Quasha on Instagram @quashaross_