Black Women are Catching Flights, Not Feelings

By Quasha Ross

It’s extremely empowering to see women taking back their power and redefining what it means to be a woman. Women are getting to the bag, making the coins, leading the pack, and everything else in between. Many women are doing these things without a man by their side, and the boss moves look hella good on these women, straight up. I was listening to a song a while back and the lyrics went something like this, “forget catching feelings, I’d rather catch a flight.” I remember sitting there thinking, “I couldn’t have said it better myself.”

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The days of women standing still while waiting on their knight in shining armor to arrive, are long gone. I remember being in a relationship that really held me back from reaching my full potential. There were so many things I wanted to accomplish in life, but the amount of attention and energy the relationship required didn’t leave much room for what I wanted. I’m not implying relationships stunt your personal growth, rather you should strive to enter into a relationship propelling you towards your purpose, not away from it. If you find yourself in a situation where the relationship is stunting your growth, don’t catch feelings, catch a flight, or a bus, Uber, Lyft, etc. Just get the heck out of there!

This is exactly what I did after leaving a toxic relationship; I found myself thousands of miles in the sky envisioning everything I wanted out of life and how I’d obtain it. I always had a love for travel, and I pursued it fervently. Catching flights became the remedy to much of the pain I endured from that toxic relationship. For most women, it’s inherent to desire companionship. We are nurturers by design and we have so much love to give. It’s a shame when that’s taken for granted. Seeing women protect their energy by setting boundaries within relationships, is life changing.

Catching flights, not feelings, is more of a figurative statement than a literal one. To me, it means to transport yourself to people, places, and ideas that serve you. It means not getting your feelings caught up into things that are fleeting. It means taking back your power!

Women, you are the prize. Winning you over should not be an effortless feat. You are much more valuable than minimal effort. May your planes ascend on high and may the people who wish to acquire your presence meet you up there.

Quasha Ross is a contributing writer for the Pedestal Project, LLC. She’s a creative writer who believes writing is a true art form. Find Quasha on Instagram @quashaross_

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