By: Ke’Ana Lampkin
One of the main concepts in this series is motherhood and the many complexities that come with it. Mia took on the heavy task of helping Bebe Chow get her daughter back because of her past that we will talk about next.
Again, I’ll be as careful as possible not to give away too many spoilers but Bebe Chow tried to go through the legal system to get her daughter back. Whether you agree or not that she should have been reunited with her daughter, the pain that she felt after the verdict was given was insurmountable. You would have to be unable to feel other’s emotions to not have felt that pain she was feeling from not being able to be with her daughter.
At some point, Izzie comes to Mia’s home and joins in to help comfort Bebe. She is so overcome with Bebe’s’ grief, she comments that she sounded like she was dying. Mia responded that she wasn’t dying. She was in a great deal of pain, but she wasn’t dying.
When deeply painful events happen in our lives, it feels like a tsunami, wreaking havoc in our lives, wiping away every joyful memory in its path. These events include, but are not limited to death, rejection, the loss of something like a job, income or housing; and so many more things. When we feel grief or loss it overtakes our sensors for joy and happiness. It can feel impossible to feel like there is a way out of a situation.
In reality, though, you aren’t dying even though you mentally and physically feel that way. There is a way out of the hole you feel surrounded in.
When a forest fire happens, it engulfs everything in its path. Just like when difficult situations happen in our lives. But Mia said something incredibly powerful; after the fire burns, and everything is cleared away, we can start over. From those ashes, creation begins again. After the dust settles in your situation, whatever it may be, you will be able to start over. It will be a new normal, but you will be okay, and you will be able to adjust, even despite the pain.
You may not be the same, you may even still feel the hurt years later, but you will be able to keep going. Out of pain comes something much greater in growth, knowledge, and wisdom. Things will not always be as painful as the feel in the beginning. You’ll find new ways to cope, and new solutions to whatever your situation is. But please be reminded that painful situations, no matter how much we dislike them, it does produce purpose in our life. It can reveal to you your purpose, testimony, or even grow your faith.
Bebe decided to take matters into her own hands, and that worked for her. Whatever your situation is, feel the feels, but remember you aren’t dying. You will get through this, and you will be okay.
Ke’Ana Lampkins is a contributing writer for The Pedestal Project, LLC. Ke’Ana is a Christian, wife, and mother dedicated to empowering young girls and women through counseling, mentorship, and education. Connect with her on Instagram @Beautifully_Yanni