By Aaliyah Moore
I recently took a week- long vacation.
During my time away, I decided I wouldn’t respond to or even look at my emails. I was so intentional about disconnecting from work that I even deleted my email app from my phone. At the onset, I was a little hesitant about disengaging in such a way because I knew I’d have to play catch up once I got back. But I quickly shifted out of that space because I knew I’d been working hard and deserved to step away for a little while.
In addition to not checking emails, I also limited the number of text messages I responded to and calls I returned. As a person who is a lot of things to a lot of different people, it’s not always easy to unplug in such away. What I’ve found, though, is that if you don’t take a break, you run the risk of burning out. And sometimes, when you give so much outwardly, you leave very little to give to yourself.
“Givers have to learn how to set limits because takers don’t have any.”
Taking breaks and unplugging is so important because I was terrible at it for a long time. I use to let people guilt trip me for not responding when they thought I should until I learned to put myself first. Now, access to me is a privilege, and I choose to respond when convenient for me.
Listen, if people have a hard time understanding your boundaries, then those people probably aren’t your people anyway. Maybe a week-long vacation isn’t feasible for you right now, but I encourage everyone who reads this to get away in some capacity. That email can wait. Their text message can wait.
You deserve all of you sometimes. Unapologetically.
Aaliyah Moore is a contributing writer for the Pedestal Project, LLC.