Dear Black Women,
You are enough. You deserve more. You are beautiful. You are more.
I know you’ve been told, taught, and primed to believe you are not enough. That your hair isn’t good enough. That your skin isn’t the right shade of glow. That you’re somehow only beautiful when you appear exotic. Let me tell you, that is a lie. Your hair is the most complex on earth. You have the only texture that can be manipulated in more than three ways and is beautiful in every single way. Your skin is the only one made to protect itself naturally from the sun, with just enough melanin to go from caramel to chocolate mocha and still look amazing in any color. Your beauty is far above man and so far out of reach of others they can’t even comprehend just how beautiful you are.
I know you’ve been given well beneath your value. I know you had to work with what you’ve been given. I know you had to unlearn some toxic traits, coping mechanisms and maneuver the jungle of your family’s generational curses. But guess what? You will rise above anyway. Your tenacity, your drive, your intelligence, and your long suffering will get you your crown. Keep reaching sister, you’re almost there. You deserve the world.
I know you’ve had your share of hurt and pain, some maybe you brought on yourself and some brought on by others. You may have been convinced to compromise what you want and ultimately what you need. You may have settled on your expectations because you were told, this is as good as it’s going to get. Girl, don’t believe it. There is so much more than you can ever imagine out there waiting for you. You may think they are the star of your movie, but hunny you’re the Director, Producer, and leading actress of this show and if you don’t give them the power then they can’t steal your show.
To all my sisters, who may have allowed yourself to believe that you aren’t good enough. That you can’t do it. Or that you deserve less than what you desire. Shut them down. You are the sun, you are the moon, and you are the stars. Believe it.
Ke’Ana Lampkins is a contributing writer for The Pedestal Project, LLC. Ke’Ana is a christian, wife, and mother dedicated to empowering young girls and women through counseling, mentorship, and education. Connect with her on Instagram @Beautifully_Yanni.