By Aaliyah Moore
Somebody once said, “The dating pool has pee in it,” and umm, I kind of agree. Don’t you? As a single black woman in my twenties, I’ve had my share of dating experiences that have resulted in a nightmare. I’ve had men “leave” their wallets at home and other men who just downright stood me up on dates they planned. Yeah, trash. The misfortune I’ve had with dating these past couple of years had me disinterested in the whole idea for a while. That was until last week…
I’m not sure what convinced me to say “yes,” but I agreed to go on a date with this gentleman over the weekend. He formed an itinerary, made reservations, and followed through on everything he said he would do. I told him I had never been wine tasting, and he intentionally found a winery for us to visit. He took me to all of my favorite restaurants in town and even went for a walk in the park with me. At the end of the weekend, I was honestly surprised at how well everything went and how much a great time I had with him.
It’s sad but true that our expectations as women are low for men these days. And in full transparency, I find myself enjoying being single much more than I do putting myself out there just to be let down again.
But I recognize that I can’t stay closed up in the house forever since I still desire to be married one day. And I also have to acknowledge that the more I work on myself, the more I attract better men. I can be honest and say that when my standards were much lower, they showed up in the type of men I gave my time and energy.
A New Outlook
Seeing how this man showed up for me allowed me to see that there are still wholesome men out here who know how to respect and treat a lady. There are still men who care, lead, and make it their business to make an excellent first impression. I’m taking my time with this thing, but I can at least say that this man helped restore some of the hope I had lost. And because of that, we’re planning date weekend #2.
Aaliyah Moore is a contributing writer for the Pedestal Project, LLC.